Most of us, as men, know and understand Ephesians 5: 22-24
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
To me, this has always been easy to understand. Wifes are to submit to their husbands and to their authority. Some men seem to either stop here or just don’t understand the next verse,
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
For a while this verse was confusing to me. It just didn’t seem quite as simple to understand. As I could not get a grasp on this, it was difficult to put into action. Let’s break this down and see just “how” Christ loved the church.
First, Christ did not come demanding to be served. Instead he came to serve and to love. Philippians 2:7 states,
But made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men.
Christ took the form of man in body, and He took form of a servant in heart. Christ was a servant to all that He came across and ministered to. He washed the feet of his disciples in John 13: 1-17. He healed those that came to Him with faith. Jesus healed those that were brought to Him by people who had faith. Christ healed the blind, raised the dead, cured the sick and cast out demons. All these acts and miracles were done as a servant. Jesus did not do this to glorify Himself but His Father. In Mark 10:52, Jesus told Bartimaeus
And Jesus said to him, “Go, for your faith has healed you.” Instantly the man could see, and he followed Jesus down the road.
As Jesus served the church, so we husbands should serve our wives. Minister to them, lead them, love them, and yes… serve them. We do not wait for our wives to submit to us before we love them. Where would we be if Christ had waited for us to submit to Him before he loved us? How long did Christ love you before you ever submitted to Him? Love your wife first. Love her like Christ loves the church. Be her minister, be her leader and serve her.