Continuing with Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
How else did Christ show His love for the church? Jesus died for the church. Christ came to die for us all. Only through His death could Jesus become the perfect sin sacrifice. In John 19:30 it states,
When Jesus had tasted it, He said, “It is finished!” Then He bowed His head and released His Spirit.
When Christ died and release His spirit, He became the perfect sacrifice. He came to be that perfect sacrifice that paid all our sin debt.
Now, how do we use this to love our wives as Christ loves the church? If I asked you “Do you love your wife”, most husbands would say yes. If I asked you “Would you die for your wife”, again, most husbands would say yes. We are brought up to be the protectors of our family. We envision someone breaking into our home with a gun and we would step in front of them to give our life to protect our family. My next question would probably confuse most men though… “How many times would you die for your wife?” To die is to give up everything. To give up that new boat you want, to give up the remote to the TV, to give up your time to take out the garbage or help in the kitchen. To give up the newspaper and spend time with your wife. To give up your attention to the sports so that your wife can have your attention. To give up serving yourself so that you can serve your wife. It’s a hard thing to wrap your head around at times, but Jesus did it for the church and he commands us to do it for our wives.
Our natural response is if I am giving up everything to serve, how will I get anywhere? Christ answers this in Matthew 16:25
If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it
Men, the simple way to look at this, and I know it from experience… If you love your wife enough to die to self and serve her, she will want you to have and do the things you love to do. If I spend a rainy day serving my wife, she will ask me to go fishing on a sunny day. When you love your wife as Christ loves the church, you bring the blessings of God on your whole family. You are leading as Christ would have you lead. You are ministering to your wife that you can be trusted with her submission. By doing as God commands, you are growing closer to Him.
- Serve your wife. That you will bless your family.
- Minister to your wife. Keep God in the center of your relationship.
- Lead your wife. Take the role Christ has charged you with.
- Pray for and with your wife. It will encourage her and strengthen her.
- Pay attention to your wife. You will learn much about her.
- Die for your wife. That you will come closer to God.