Continuing with Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Jesus spent time with the church. We see Him constantly with the masses. How could He have come to “serve” if He was not with the people? In Matthew 14:13-21
As soon as Jesus heard the news, he left in a boat to a remote area to be alone. But the crowds heard where he was headed and followed on foot from many towns. 14 Jesus saw the huge crowd as he stepped from the boat, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick. That evening the disciples came to him and said, “This is a remote place, and it’s already getting late. Send the crowds away so they can go to the villages and buy food for themselves.”But Jesus said, “That isn’t necessary—you feed them.” “But we have only five loaves of bread and two fish!” they answered.“Bring them here,” he said. Then he told the people to sit down on the grass. Jesus took the five loaves and two fish, looked up toward heaven, and blessed them. Then, breaking the loaves into pieces, he gave the bread to the disciples, who distributed it to the people. They all ate as much as they wanted, and afterward, the disciples picked up twelve baskets of leftovers. About 5,000 men were fed that day, in addition to all the women and children!
Jesus had to be with the people to know their needs and to minister to them. He gave them His attention and listened to them. In Mark 10:51
“What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked. “My rabbi,” the blind man said, “I want to see!”
Jesus asked Bartimaeus what he needed before He blessed him. Jesus gave attention to the church and asked their needs before He met their needs. Just as we need to do with our wives. They need our attention and we must give them our attention in order to know their needs. Once we know the needs of our wives, we can then serve them.